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FORGIVENESS: A CHOICE OR NECESSITY?

          Will you rather keep immersing yourself in bondage by refusing to forgive those who has hurt you in some way? "As large and spacious the mouth is, even the teeth and tongue do have clash"- This, The culture cites, what then do we say about humans? Is forgiveness a choice or necessity? Or should we rather permit revenge to take control over our weak hearts?

        Ellen Miller, author of One Year Book Of Inspiration For Girlfriends says " Because I make mistakes, I know others do too. I've found out that when I give forgiveness , it's me not the other person, that benefits ". We are to be aware that at times those we know hurts us without they, knowing. Certainly, if we evaluate ourselves, we sure would realize we've hurt someone also. Life would be a friendlier place if we learn to render listening ears to others and when we  forgive faults. 

       Are we not fools if we refuse to revenge? Are we not weak if we forgo faults and give not the ones who hurts us a taste of the viciousness in us? Are we not gullible if we are easily beguiled by daily words and quotes on forgiveness as a necessity?  Why should it not be a choice instead? Why should we be forced to when we desire not? To Iyana Vanzant "forgiveness eliminates the wounds of the past from the mind". Surely, if past issues cloud our thoughts, we shall remain trapped in the web of unforgiveness which would expand our hearts to become more hurt. 

        It must be remembered just as it was disclosed that people are liable to make certain mistakes even unknowningly. Reputable Ghandi cited that "The weak can never forgive, forgiveness is an attributeof the strong". Should we rather accept weakness and show no sign of strength. It is expedient we forgive so we recieve freedom from burdens that can eat away at us, give birth to bitterness or make our hearts, heavy. It is well known that "To err is human, to forgive is divine ".

     Liza realized she had been fooling herself when she attended a symposium where there was a talk on forgiveness. Here, she realized she never forgave one of her schoolmates in sixth grade who bullied her in different ways. She never forgot the day when the huge, busty Mitch hid a tarantula in her schoolbag which nearly bit her and made her scream. After ten years, she met her and realized she was still hurt by that which had happened in the past. After the lecture, she saw herself as strong and free from bondage. Surely, only the strong can forgive, will you rather prove yourself weak and not give chance to the little strength in you? Let the wounds heal and be free from shackles by forgiving today. 

 

@Opemiplenty